Lin, So grateful for your responses. Last weekend I hit rock bottom ~ and finally after almost 6 months called my dad and sister to come and I let myself puke, cry, sleep, etc. I was getting to a point where the hurt was eating away at me. Once I got the information from the attorney I think I felt empowered again. There is no easy answer here and I'm not going to rush.
So right about the elimination of all communication. H texted twice today to let me know that he got a night security job at an extended stay hotel and that he will get room free. By day, high school counselor/role model, etc. by night... I did not respond - nor do I plan to respond. I think you are right about developing my own separation papers. I need to think through what structures I need to have in place.
Does it sound right that I am planning to respectfully, with quiet dignity, self-esteem, and common courtesy stand for my marriage? I don't plan to discuss it with anyone ~ just letting myself live.
Lin - you sound so good! How long did it take?
M-48/XH-48 M=25/T=28 years Ds-24,22/S-18 D - 3/11 A Day at a Time
