It does suck, and I feel really bad. I'm sure it's because of everything - he doesn't want us to fight (sadly, he has had to witness enough as it is), his dad's calls and texts which cause him to have to talk/worry about it, and he knows I am upset about the whole situation. NOT with my son AT ALL, and I've told him that. I'm just very upset that his father and I were unable to keep this between the two of us...and IMO, it's all because XH kept telling S10 to talk to me about him not wanting to go to BV. I feel instead he should've said something like, "I understand you're afraid, son, of going to a new school and not being familiar with anyone there. It can be a scary thought, but you will be ok, and you will meet new kids and make new friends." Something along those lines would've been SUPPORTIVE of the decision made....NOT "go talk to your mom and tell you don't want to go to BV, and if she won't change her mind, and you really want to go to Fairmont, then I will fight for full custody of you so you can stay there. I will fight for what you want, son."
F*!KTARD.
It's sad that he can't see the reasons I see...and not just me alone! Instead of driving to THREE schools with different schedules, it will only be two (and yes, he would be in the same school as S5). But more importantly, as you pointed out, and as I have over and over again to him, it is a BETTER SCHOOL. HELLLLOOOOOOOO!!!!
And I'm trying to remind myself that he is going off of S10's feelings, therefore, isn't thinking as an adult parent.
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
