21 years of marriage hanging by a thread

[MrBond]

Learn to really listen to your W.

While most of the reasons might seem "bogus" to you, there may be nuggets of truth in them. Let's put it this way ... I'm sure your W was no angel herself and you found fault in some of the things she did. Maybe some of those faults made you think "WTH did I marry this person?" Well she had those same thoughts and the only difference is that she decided to do something about them.

Learning to listen and understand is the key to all of this.

Now if she's just spewing venom, then you're going to have to let that slide off of you and see that as just a crazy person talking. But when she really opens up to you, pay attention.