Oh and about the cellphone - I used to think the same thing. What the heck are all these 9, 10, 11 yo's doing with cellphones?!! LOL But when I got one for my teenager, I could get a second for $0...hard to pass on a deal like that. Plus, S10 is my most responsible and very well-mannered child of the three, so, he deserves it. Doesn't mean he doesn't act up every now and then ...as boys often do!...but he's awesome.
And with the report card, I think the angle XH is trying to go for is to say he has very good grades (which he does), so why change his school?
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
...as boys often do!...but he's awesome. 
