Yes, I've read it, but thanks for the reminder! I am definitely taking steps for A to stop being the option. I've been allowing Option A for awhile now because I thought he had been willing to go to counseling, work on M, not taking active steps toward OW, etc... However, once I was enlightened that was not the case earlier this week, I became determined to cut out Option A! Just figuring out the best way to do that has been the tricky part. I was ready to confront and now he is willing to go do this.
SO: If he waivers again (which he might) then I need a script to basically say, "You don't go - You pack up your things - or better yet, I'll do it for you...and find some place else to stay until you decide you want to work on M." (Or leave out the last bit even.)
