You can listen casually, but I bet my paycheque next week that its' going to be in Puppy's top five list of garbage convo's from teh wayward spouse

Hear a bit, but focus on what YOU have to say... YOU have something that is much more likely to be constructive than SHE does

Give her an ear, but don't put much stock in anything good coming from it...

Kind of like a cop making an arrest.. if the suspect has to say something let him talk (and incriminate himself), but you reading him his rights and throwing on teh cuffs is the purpose of the "talk"