Although, I think he just likes where he's at now: Not leaving yet not addressing the marriage either. It's not that he's running towards divorce, he just thinks he can keep cake eating by staying here, walking the tightrope of not having an A yet not working on M either... but having chats/texts/whatever else.. but me being here and him here for the kids too. Quite a nice setup that of course he'd like to keep!
It's like, "Sure...force me on this retreat and it's just going to push me out the door because I'm mad about having to go!" What he's implying is, "I'm not going to reconnect with you after this weekend and am going to feel worse about you, so I'm going to be forced to leave." Similar to, "I was GOING to work things out, but now this!"
