And your daughter's future is weakened whether her affair works out or not... children of divorce suffer.. period... even if your wife never pursued anotehr man and just D'd you the DD would suffer...
If you WANT to give her a reality check on the divorce damage to DD then find some good articles on divorce harming children.. there's dozens of them..
You print them up and drop them at her feet and say "educate yourself for your daughters sake... You must be a very proud mother"
Yeah, I wish but all I've ever seen (other than the opening chapter of DR), usually says the "damage to children is generally overestimated". there are far too many articles on Google that help minimize the effect of D as they are usually quoted on D "help sites".
Any non-MWD articles you can recall or sites I should look at?
Don't confuse zingers, or "truth darts" with your confrontation speech. You don't need a PERFECT script here (altho the better it is, the better, obviously) -- just "speak the truth, in love" and you'll do fine.
Barring nasty interruptions from her (at which point you should end it, as discussed), it should be short and sweet -- maybe 2 or 3 minutes long. You are now a man of ACTION, not of WORDS anyway, and this confrontation is merely to "go on the record" with her so that she doesn't misinterpret -- nor underestimate -- your silence following your infidelitus interruptus.
Cover the main points, speak the truth in love, show her you can look her in the eye and deliver these things without tearing up and without angry outbursts, and get in/get out, like Ali.
No attitude or zingers (my brain will think them but I know they mustn't come out)
I will be focusing on her eyes; looking to 'speak' to my W.
I will also be trying to keep somewhat of a smile if not a kind look on my face. As though I am talking directly to her heart.
I found a great motivating line where the key is to be thinking of something special or 'naughty' the two of us did. The smile can't stay off your face.
