Well, how do YOU plan on telling the famly in the OPEN about your trip to this place with your H?
Are you goign to LIE and say its a cruise?
If you both ADMIT its a marriage building weekend then your Son can give his F a hug and tell him he's proud of him for keeping the family togthter... that's motivation enough... As long as they say something constructive to motivate him in a healthy direction.
Give your SON some scripts if he wants them.
Was definitely going to tell them it was a marriage weekend. They knew we had a big fight and that H had brought out the D word so that part isn't a surprise to them. I had not told them about any specifics though.
Good idea - about the scripts.
H is going into this with the idea of "fine, it won't work - it's just going to push me away further..." and I hate that he has that attitude. It's like setting up to fail. I forgot the term where you set yourself up for a certain outcome because that's what your beliefs are. That part makes me nervous that we will be the 1 out of 4 that doesn't get saved through the weekend. BUT...I am not letting that fear stop me! If it doesn't go well then I've done all I could and it's time for him to leave.
