Help--Can't See Past The Pain

[gr8 day 2B alive]

I know that these people are giving you good advice-change yourself, work on you. I also know that this is very hard to do when you have been rejected and feel low self esteem. The sense of loss is great. it is a very destructive feeling that can waste many months or years of your life. They say things will get better i just dont see the light yet. i hope that you do.

I am approaching my 1 year anniversary since my bomb was dropped.

I too was in a fog for months hoping and thinking my M would work out. Most of us here do the same.
Once I started doing things for me and working on myself for me, things change. I know I'm a great person, mistakes were made but I'm still a great person.

Getting to your place of zen takes time, different for everyone.

Newbies here often mistake success as getting back together w spouse.

DBing is about saving yoursdelf. Although I may not have saved my M, I feel I am a success because I worked hard on myself and I am a much happier person now.

I saved myself to be the best dad my kids could want. I worked on my R skills so that when the time comes I won't make the same mistakes twice.

I tell people there are three types of people in the world:

1. Ignorant people- The people who don't "get it", They will never learn and continue to fail in life.

2. Smart People- People who made mistakes learned from them and better themselves from those mistakes.

3. WIse People- People who learn from other peoples mistakes.


Learn from your mistakes and work on you.

gr8