New to this Community seeking advice

[MichelleLT]

Ugh. That has to be even worse than S. I think it actually makes the chance of R less when a couple doesn't S because they don't have the space to see what D would be like and miss being M.

You have made a lot of good strides for yourself, worked hard on yourself, and worked hard on how you interact with your W. It has paid off in that you are building a much better parenting R even if she isn't to the point of considering reconciliation. Keep doing the work and see where it takes you. No expectations that it'll work out, no guaranteed results, but hope, definitely hope for it to work out.