Sad To Be Back 4 Years After The Bust

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Don't confuse gentlemanlyness with fear, nor respect with timidity.

Yes, be a gentleman and be respectful. But teach your children to work thru difficult problems by FACING their fears, steeling themselves, and acting with true COURAGE and FORTITUDE, despite their fears.

Exactly. And yet... we see so many here cower into total submission when D and seperation are thrown at them... which is exactly what you don't want to do.

The weird thing about detatching is that divorce--if it comes to that--doesn't really scare you anymore. You want to divorce me? OK, that doesn't scare me, and I no longer ask myself how you could do that because I know I can do that too, and it really isn't hard (or the right way to treat somebody, IMO).