Is that the kind of bar I'm thinking it is? If so, sounds perfect for a "my W filed for D but it's my anniversary" celebration. Glad you had a good time. Did the waitress flirt with you there too?
So when I get home tonight, W is standing outside on the phone, as usual. I get out of the car and go into the house. Talk with the kids a bit about their day.
She comes in a few minutes later bleeding from picking zits on her chin. She says nothing about last night or anything else. I put my personal mail into my briefcase and lock it. Throw junk mail in the garbage, which she is standing over with a kleenex. I say, picking zits? She says just one. No other conversation. She goes back outside to talk on the phone some more with her sister. She continues to be her stoic self.
I go upstairs and take a needed shower. When I come down she is outside talking with the neighbor and the kids are standing around. I go outside and say hi to the neighbor and W says the kids want to go to the lake at the rec center and ride their scooters around the path, so she is going to take them. I say, have fun.
I sit on the porch with a diet coke and a cigar while W walks across the street talking to the neighbor some more. I am friends with the neighbors and they know what is going on and feel really bad about the sitch, so I figure I will hear what was said(pursuing). Finally, the kids yell at her to get going, so she comes back and into the house to get whatever it is that she needs. On the phone again. Finally they leave and I go talk to the neighbor lady.
Me: Care to share anything?
N: She didn't say much. Only that she is really stressed out and that you didn't come home last night. She said I don't know where he could have gone, and the kids were really worried.
S was at a sleepover at a friends house, so he wasn't worried, and I would assume D was in bed before I would have gotten home from softball anyway. I called D at 9am today to talk to her a bit, she seemed fine to me.
Me: yeah, W is complaining about being stressed out a lot lately.
N: Well, she made her bed, now she has to lie in it. Talked about a few other things going on, but no big shakes. Just rehash of what I have already said here, so no need to repeat it.
Maybe leaving her to her own thoughts is finally having some effect.....
We'll see what happens when she comes back and the kids go to bed. Actually, I need to go to bed early tonight. I am still worn out from last night!
Not another word spoken all night. When I was in the house, she was in her room. I left to talk to the neighbor who was fishing tonight. While I was out, kids went in and went to bed. Probably should have tucked them in, but didn't tonight.
I'm glad to hear your doing well. GAL is the best thing I did too. I see a light at the end of my tunnel and I hope yours comes soon. I know that our moods are up and down right now but my most supportive friends convinced me that things happen for a reason.
Our W's chose a different path to walk down and as much as we miss them it will work out in the end. I haven't gotten to that point to start dating but when I do I know I’ll be ready mentally.
I've realized how unhealthy my W is right now. For her to actually start dating shows me that she needs OM as a coping mechanism to get through this. So many people have given me such great advice. Bottom line is we can’t be with someone who doesn’t want to be with us. It’s made my decision an easy one, now it’s time to start healing and moving forward.
M: 36 W: 29 S: 2.5 EA: 2/2010 OM1 D Bomb: 3/2010 PA: 6/2010 OM2 W moved out 8/2010 Loc: DE, USA
Our W's chose a different path to walk down and as much as we miss them it will work out in the end.
As I posted in my thread, my mornings commute on the way to work in West Side Chicago "rush" hour traffic:
There is no shame......in being a man, sitting in rush hour traffic and standing still, windows down, hand jiving disco rolls to the radio cranked up to Donna Summer's "I will survive" after all I've [we've] been [are gong] through.
All though you get some interesting looks.
Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11
What kind of storm should I expect? I don't care. I am not scared of it anymore!!
Going to see my mortgage broker after work tonight. Then plan to go home, see the kids and have something to eat. When the kids go to bed, I think I am going back to the bar to talk to that hot little bartender I met on Sunday!!!!!
Donna Summer?? Really?
My current fav's:
Godsmack - I Stand Alone Breaking Benjamin - I Will not Bow Rise Against - Savior Seether - Gasoline Nickelback - Burn it to the ground
I don't care. I am not scared of it anymore!!