As I have read with a lot of others on the site, the hardest part of NC is not having any idea what is going on in her head or her life. After 25 years of always knowing what is going on in her life and knowing (I thought) what she was thinking, quitting cold turkey is tough.
Other question I have is this. The attorney I spoke with told me that if I wanted, he could have a D in court and finalized with 4-6 weeks if I wanted. My temptation is to email her and let her know that and tell her that if that is what she wants I will proceed. Two problems with that: 1) With the boundaries I have set, I am currently in some level of control and asking what she wants gives that back to her, and 2) I don't think I am ready to make that move yet, even if she is.
Thoughts?
M - 43 WAXW - 42 Married - 24 years Together - 25 years S - 23 - passed away 10/17/09 S - 22 Bomb - PA - 6/23/10 - WAW moved in with OM same night D-day - 9/17/10
