Puppy and Coach's advice is spot on. Future, it is difficult in the beginning to handle what's happening. We know what is right, but faced with the loss of family (esp. where our children are concerned), we allow our feelings to be manipulated. You are strong now, and can handle anything. I, on the other hand, was pretty strong at the beginning. I was on the cusp of filing for SA and D, then my H found a chink in the armor; he begged me on the floor to go with to New City. At the time I thought it sincere, but now I wonder if he was begging for me, or for me and the children, or OW. Who knows; doesn't matter now. Anyway, my heart softened, and here we are, almost six years later.
I am going to go copy Coach's philosophy so that I never forget it again. Thanks for posting that, Puppy. It benefits everyone who goes onto Future's thread. I was also in the military; I know how feelings can be manipulated; I know about honour and doing the right thing (not that all military people are like that). Gosh! If you can handle being shouted at right in your face with no reaction, surely you can handle just about anything without bursting into tears.
Anyway, just musing here.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim