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[MichelleLT]

He can, but he won't because he feels like it's too hard. His coping mechanisms can't handle what he's going through.

You don't have to handle it. He's an adult. Tell him that you feel pressured to help him by his emotional upheavals, but that you can't fix it for him. That since you find it stressful, he either needs to start counseling or find another way to start dealing with it or he'll have to move out because it's not healthy for you.

I know I need my space when Roger is having a bad day and super grumpy. After a while it starts to wear on me and I find it contagious LOL. He usually wants to be alone though, so he'll go play on his computer and I'll stay in one of the other rooms til he decides he's ready to emerge again.