Besides, since your unvarying sex drive from teenage years to the present seems to be an identifying factor for you, which you return to over and over in your postings, it seems that the part of your life which you cannot share with your wife is more important to you than the (unstated) things which you do share.
For me, personally, it is indeed an "identifying factor" for the simple reason that it's a powerful mental and physical desire that intrudes on me every day, whether I'm ready for it or not, whether I have time for it or not, whether I have an available partner or not, whether I'm in love or not. If it's been 24 hours, and often sooner, a delicious sexual fantasy crosses my mind, or a horny physical feeling takes hold, or I simply start feeling aroused, any of which can lead to the others, etc. And if I just ignore it, which I often have to, of course, at work, etc., the fantasy/feeling desire just comes back more and more frequently. The sex drive is very much there even if I don't have a partner who comes on to me (which of course I'd much prefer). It's just life in the high-sex-drive lane. Nothing new for me there.
But I thought it might help you understand the nature of why it appears to "identify me" as an issue. It doesn't mean it's the only way I relate to people around me, or the only way I related when my wife and I were sexual. But if an HD person is married to an LD or ZD person, then, of course, those are the labels that become overly "identifying" to each partner.
