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[Lucky11too]

It's good that you were able to get some good sleep last night. It's hard b/c of the havoc our H's can wreck on us. We're definitely strong, but we're also human.

Regarding S sleeping in his own bed, that really is necessary for you both to get the best sleep possible. However, I am with you on not being able to let him cry for hours on end, espcecially in light of what he is dealing with, with H coming in and out of his life. Maybe on offnights were he is feeling more clingy, is he content sleeping in his bed if you are there while he falls asleep? Maybe you could read in a chair next to him until he falls asleep? (good way for you to undwind too). It's hard, but it's obviously best for both of you if he does sleep by himself. I've been super lucky that S has been very independent (actually too independent sometimes that I don't feel very needed, haha), but he only will sleep in his own bed.

For you, like you did last night, just do whatever you can to unwind. I know for me, my brain seems to start going crazy thinking as soon as I go to bed, so I've found relaxation tapes have helped my mind wander off to sleep. There's also relaxing teas that are supposed to help relax you for sleep (I don't like tea, but I was looking into them when I couldn't sleep before I found the relaxation tapes). Tv, reading, hot showers/baths are all good too.

I don't know how you deal with it. H's lack of response to ANYTHING would drive me up the wall. You could definitely talk to H about the deal with FIL and his running for Mayor and how it affects your D, but given his track record, you know you won't get much of a response. 2 years is a long time to live in this limbo land with no end in sight! Have you talked anymore to FIL and MIL about possibly taking H's stuff over there (I know you didn't want to just throw it over there b/c they already have so much stuff, but maybe it would be a little eye opening for them too?)

Well, glad you are enjoying the time with S! Can't believe how fast the summer is going! Have fun today! =)

[awest1217]

Went putt-putting with my grandma then out to dinner....then bad stuff. I went to reach for a fork S dropped and I felt a pain in my left side. I then proceeded to pass out at the restaurant. I fell off my chair and was out for 20s. The paramedics were called and I then called my parents to get S so he was more safe. Then I was taken to the emergency room in the ambulance. I pulled a muscle around my ribs and they are thinking when I did that I pinched an artery which caused low oxygen to my brain and lowered my blood pressure, which is normally low anyway, to cause me to pass out. THere is more, but I am tired.

S was a little scared, but has been talking about what happened once in a while like saying "mommy don't go to that restaurant anymore becuase it hurts you". Stuff like that. He got to play with my step-dad in the castle my SD decided to build with a jawbridge and sandbox underneath. THey had fun.

Now to get some sleep. I did have my mom call H, but taht is another story for another time. Right now my side is hurting and is very swollen and my knee hurts and is swollen from me hitting it when I fell.

I am very embarassed for having that happen, but at least my grandma was there to distract S which she did a great job. However on the bright side, I now know how to get a free meal at a restaurant with all the food in a doggy bag...pass out. LOL not something I would recommend.

[Lucky11too]

OMG, that is so scary!!! I'm glad you're relatively ok now. I'm glad your grandma and then mom were able to be there for you and help with S. How are you feeling today? Wow, so crazy! Definitely rest up as much as you can!

[awest1217]

I am ok. My knee is sore, but just bruised and swollen. My side where I pulled the muscle that caused my blood pressure to drop, is sore like when you do a lot of sit ups, but I have been taking it easy today just in case.

S has been very loving and just giving me hugs saying mommy I love you. I know it freaked him out a little, but all is well now.

H..well H was H. I told my mom to call him, but she deleted him from her phone so she called my SIL to call him. Of course he didn't answer the phone (reason #1 why I didn't call him instead of my parents because I was worried he wouldn't answer. We have to really have an important discussion about that), and when he checked his voicemail called everyone he coudl think of. No one knew besides my parents what was goign on, and my mom was with me and there is no reception in the ER so he coudn't reach us. He finally called the ER and I get an ear full about how no one answered their phone and no one knew what was going on and on and on. The doc was there so I got off the phone. I called him later to let him know hwat the doc said and he just wanted to make sure S was ok. Later, he said he would help out and get me anything I needed. I said I was ok, which I was. Then he text me this morning to make sure I was awake and that was that. He did sound like he was about to cry on the phone, but who knows why.

I have had my mom, sister, brother, and a few friends call to make sure I was ok. Like I said my left side is sore because the muscles are compensating for the hurt one, but I will be back to normal in a day and all will be well.

[Kalni]

I am sorry sweets! Hope you will be well soon!!
It did sound scary, glad your family was there for you,
HUGS!!!
K

[awest1217]

Since the incident, I have been very bloated which is odd and stomach is not feeling to great when I eat a larger meal. Today at lunch I felt a little sick so I will watch it to make sure I didn't do anything to my stomach when I bent over which caused the fainting. Not too worried.

I am also still very tired, but it is so hot here. It hasn't been this hot in three years so that is probably it as well. I slept much better last night and am feeling a lot better. Much less sore.

Today I went to my new classroom and with S and my sister's help we at least got everything organized. Now just to decorate and make copies which I will do in two weeks.

Now to relax the rest of the day. I don't need to over do it.

[Lucky11too]

I'm glad you are feeling better, but you don't think you should be checked out by a dr just to make sure that everything is ok? That was a very scary incident, so it seems like it would be good to have some follow up just to make sure. But yeah, definitely keep trying to relax and take it easy!

[Lucky11too]

How are you feeling? Are you able to eat again and is the pain continuing to get better?

[awest1217]

Today I am tired. S is very worried about me. He won't sleep without me at all and last night kept his hand on my back so I didn't sleep much. Today i went to the beach with my brother and his family. A lot of fun!

My pain comes and goes. The knee is continually better. My side gets aggrevated if I bend funny so then it is sore, but nothing major. Still not able to eat a lot, but not a bad thing.

Overall doing well...going to get to bed a little early and hopefully enjoy a very long relaxing night's sleep.

[Lucky11too]

Wow, that still doesn't sound too good. When it happened, did the doctors say that would be normal? Aww, although not good for your sleep, that was so sweet of S to be so worried that he kept his hand on you all night. Kids are such great examples of unconditional love. <3

Well, i hope you got the good sleep last night that you definitely needed. And I hope you have a fun (yet relaxing) week!