Bradley, I read some of your thread last night. A doctor? Wow..that's cool. I can see how the training for that would take a toll on a marriage. you'd be gone alot and your hours would be horrible. But, even so, we all have to go thru trials and tribulations to get to our shangri-la. I've hung in here with my H and all the moving around and the time alone while he travels for work, because I knew it wouldn't be forever. Someday he'd be home more and things would settle down. if you know there is a light at the end of the tunnel, you can ususally put up with anything. And if you love each other and are a team, it makes things easier too. I guess you and I are both one man teams right now. I can see by reading your story and others how much harder it would be with children at home. I guess I'm lucky that our kids are grown. My brother went thru this several years ago and his son was quite young. He would bring him over to my house when he had him cuz he didn't have anywhere else to go, and he would just cry cuz he missed him so much. He is married again now and happy as can be.
Things will work out fine Bradley. In my opinion, if we remain true to ourselves and our morals and our core being is that of an honestly good human being..then we can't go wrong, no matter how it turns out for us.
I used to have a philosophy: That God puts people in our paths for reasons. So they can help us to learn a lesson He thinks we need to learn, or so we can help them learn a lesson they need to learn. So, maybe your W needed to learn something from you or you from her, and now there is someone else that needs your help.
My H is my very best friend and I love him with all my heart. Sometimes it's worse when you are friends as well as spouses..if the marriage doesn't work out, you lose both a friend and a spouse.
