Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Sorry to hear about the job thing ITay. Don't loose hope and don't get discouraged. Something will turn up.
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
snodderly..secretarial mostly. I figured since I've been out of the job market for 5 years, i couldn't go back into my field of programming/support without some refresher classes.
Have you thought about going back to school? You can get grants that not only pay for your education but give you money to live on. I know because I checked it out myself. My daughter just got an almost full Pell Grant with aide for babysitting and transportation, and her husband makes good money.
There are a lot of specialized grants out there right now. Not only could you get an education in a new field, or update in the field you have, but it will also give you back some purpose for yourself and detachment from H. Any colleges, of any size in your area. Even Vo-Tech?
ME: 54 Him: 51 M: 20 years T: 21 years OW/New wife: 36 Sons & Daughters: 7 (ages 24-36) Bomb: March 4, 2010 He Filed: April 28, 2010 I Contested: May 1, 2010 Standing Down: 11/24/10 Divorced : 05/04/2011
Bradley, I read some of your thread last night. A doctor? Wow..that's cool. I can see how the training for that would take a toll on a marriage. you'd be gone alot and your hours would be horrible. But, even so, we all have to go thru trials and tribulations to get to our shangri-la. I've hung in here with my H and all the moving around and the time alone while he travels for work, because I knew it wouldn't be forever. Someday he'd be home more and things would settle down. if you know there is a light at the end of the tunnel, you can ususally put up with anything. And if you love each other and are a team, it makes things easier too. I guess you and I are both one man teams right now. I can see by reading your story and others how much harder it would be with children at home. I guess I'm lucky that our kids are grown. My brother went thru this several years ago and his son was quite young. He would bring him over to my house when he had him cuz he didn't have anywhere else to go, and he would just cry cuz he missed him so much. He is married again now and happy as can be.
Things will work out fine Bradley. In my opinion, if we remain true to ourselves and our morals and our core being is that of an honestly good human being..then we can't go wrong, no matter how it turns out for us.
I used to have a philosophy: That God puts people in our paths for reasons. So they can help us to learn a lesson He thinks we need to learn, or so we can help them learn a lesson they need to learn. So, maybe your W needed to learn something from you or you from her, and now there is someone else that needs your help.
My H is my very best friend and I love him with all my heart. Sometimes it's worse when you are friends as well as spouses..if the marriage doesn't work out, you lose both a friend and a spouse.
