How do you know it's too late?

[pearlharbr]

If H is insisting that he wants D then start showing him what D looks like. Do not do his laundry, do not cook him meals, do not ask him to do anything, do not buy him gifts. Personally I would ask him to leave the house because he wants out. If that's not something you're willing to do then it's a bit more difficult. The key is to be upbeat and happy in his presence while moving forward with your own life. Do not be cold or snippy but treat him as you would a neighbor--exchanging pleasantries but nothing more.

Do focus on GAL and working on yourself. What did you contribute to the breakdown of the M? Have you started dealing with your issues? Remember that you cannot control anyone else's behavior, you can only control your own. Do things that make you happy. Buy a new outfit, change up your hair. It may sound shallow but looking good on the outside can make you happy on the inside.

The point is to let go of the outcome and focus on making your life a good one no matter what happens with your M.