The part of your story which makes me think of your marriage is a sham is that you've stated there's no emotional intimacy. For myself (and, I think, most women) a marriage without emotional intimacy sounds ... pointless, empty, unendurable.
Not sure what I wrote before, but I'd say what's lacking is the emotional intimacy around sex. My wife is fine in all the other emotional ways. Kind of like a sister or good friend. And friends are not pointless, empty or unendurable.
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Besides, since your unvarying sex drive from teenage years to the present seems to be an identifying factor for you, which you return to over and over in your postings, it seems that the part of your life which you cannot share with your wife is more important to you than the (unstated) things which you do share.
I'm here to discuss my issues, not all the things that are working well. I'd hate to go through 10 pages of happy details just to get to a paragraph of sexual issues so as to give a "proper balance" of my life. If I returned to my unvarying sex drive with my wife and everyone else in my life in the proportion I do here in my postings, nobody would want to have anything to do with me, especially my wife!
So, you're right in the sense that on this forum it is the identifying factor for me.
