REALLY need some help today, Please!

[Quicksilver264]

Sunny,

I came to this realization that AFTER I re-exposed the Facebook guy.

The day BEFORE I did it, she was searching "ways to a guys heart", "sex to a guys heart", "how to get a guy online", and "is sex the way to win a guy".

She had been pursuing him a MONTH AFTER the FIRST exposure. And it FINALLY paid off when they started contact AGAIN. Finally he said "I want you in EVERY WAY". That was all she needed to start the online searches. She REALLY thought she was going to run into his arms, and be happy ever after.

AND THIS TIME, she left NO STONE unturned in her attempt to win him into bed and visit him. She let him say ANYTHING to her, and I could hear her LAUGHING and "HMMMMMMMM-ing" at his messages from her room that VERY NIGHT as I watched the network and what was going on as it unfolded.

What she said back to him was HORRIFYING. Then I exposed, and she left for a week. She didn't get on Facebook for like 4 days, and almost stopped texting ALTOGETHER. You can see it in her now. She is DEVASTATED that she can't have him anymore. It's PATHETIC.

Then she started chatting with this young guy at work, and asking him to be her roommate. Just LAST NIGHT she online searched his family business, and spent 10 minutes looking at his photos and requested that she be able to answer questions about him on Facebook.

She is in need of validation, attention, and pursuing BADLY. She pursues because she LOVES the attention that the OM give back, and it makes it worthwhile for her. She has something to "win", whereas she feels in her marriage she has "lost everything and who she was".

Your H may be as desperate as my wife to "get away" BECAUSE they are running from what they are FEELING AND DOING to THEMSELVES. The harder they run from you and pursue other people, the worse they feel. They stoop to NEW LOWS, things they and other people NEVER THOUGHT they would do. So they run harder and look harder. And it cycles downward until they are so far deep in that the ONLY way out they see is to divorce and QUICKLY attach onto "that someone else".

It is absolutely horrifying to watch. Believe me.