OT, I just bought the book and so far I relate to every Life Trap I've read...I'm one sick puppy! Anyway, I diligently tracked this book down, finding one last copy at a local bookstore (it ain't no best seller anymore!). When I pulled the book off the shelf I realized it's the same one wife read when she was briefly in therapy...oh boy! Yes, it was about 8 years ago on Christmas night when I mistakenly opened up an email that wasn't addressed to me...Merry Christmas Whatis! So, I confronted her right away and told her she needed to make some decisions about where her life and our family was going, enough was enough. She chose to dump her friend (who she insisted was still just a friend) and go for therapy to work through this compulsive R she had with this person. The therapist assigned her Reinventing Your Life to read, and I guess she really did reinvent her life because I'm no longer living there! Yes, it was five more years of me trying to save that marriage which failed miserably. Btw, wife dumped therapist because she felt she could do it herself, after all, she was a social worker! I will keep reading though, despite this bad taste in my mouth.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Is it a good thing to type in your daughters Facebook status "I love my Daddy more than life itself?" Hey, she left the page open on the computer and I am who I am, what did she expect would happen? OK, I've done the tests in Reinventing Your Life and scored highest in Defectiveness followed by Social Exclusion and Subjugation. I am officially one sick dude! Now, I should be able to fix it all by dinner and get onto snuffing that critical inner voice...I'm thinking of sneaking up on him when he's watching TV and take him out then, while he's got his hands in a chip bag. Wish me luck! If all goes well, I should be a healthy, well adjusted human being by tomorrow.
Wii, let me know if you find any of those books to be helpful. I've gotten so many books on various peep's recommendations but none really clicked with me. They're all good books, mostly common sense stuff with lots of theory but very little in terms of concrete steps or examples to help you change your behavior.
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
Anyway, I diligently tracked this book down, finding one last copy at a local bookstore (it ain't no best seller anymore!). When I pulled the book off the shelf I realized it's the same one wife read when she was briefly in therapy...oh boy! Yes, it was about 8 years ago on Christmas night when I mistakenly opened up an email that wasn't addressed to me...Merry Christmas Whatis! So, I confronted her right away and told her she needed to make some decisions about where her life and our family was going, enough was enough. She chose to dump her friend (who she insisted was still just a friend) and go for therapy to work through this compulsive R she had with this person. The therapist assigned her Reinventing Your Life to read, and I guess she really did reinvent her life because I'm no longer living there! Yes, it was five more years of me trying to save that marriage which failed miserably. Btw, wife dumped therapist because she felt she could do it herself, after all, she was a social worker! I will keep reading though, despite this bad taste in my mouth. 