One last thing, you wrote "It'll be tough to pretend we're a family in front of all the people." I understand that and can respect it but...you are family! No piece of paper can make or unmake your family. You have years and years together and a child you've raised and will continue to raise. You can choose to make it a supportive environment where you put aside your hurt and do what is best for your daughter, which is to have two supportive, loving parents who get along and can still show some caring towards each other. I tried to show my children how an adult behaves when things are going wrong and when we separated I wanted to show them that this is how adults handle hurt. I did not want them to see parents who couldn't be in the same room together or who carried their scars where everyone can see. I remember telling my kids "we are still a family, not the same kind of family as we were before but we are still family" this, of course, does not mean I spend time with wife outside of family time nor do I call her to share my personal news, but we still act as family when it's important to do so. Well, that ends my bottomless lecture and it's not meant to be critical of you in any way,it's just food for thought as you plan and try to navigate your way through this nightmare, and that's what it is. You've been through it twice now with this lady and my hat goes off to you.You're a strong man, Romeo! Also, my opinions are my opinions and I'm sure many others would see things quite differently. That's OK, we each have to travel our own road. Maybe mine is all f@cked up, who knows!
