1. We're not on the best terms lately I don't really want to see her and she probably feels the same way. It'll be tough to pretend we're a family in front of all the people.
2. She'll want to invite some people that I resent since they supported her in her decision. And for them to attend my D's b.day just doesn't sit right since they took part in destroying her family.
I may suggest to her doing the party at her school for the kids only, favor bags, cake cutting and a few balloons and stbxw and I can be there for 15mins or so for the cake cutting. She also said she thinks it's best to celebrate separately and on top of that refused to split the weekend to spend time with her. So not sure how to pitch the idea without sounding like I'm pleading with her?
So you're thinking you'd like to have a little party at school, why would that be difficult to suggest? Could you not do it with or without her? You just bring the cake, utensils, loot bags etc and do it. Tell her she's welcome to take part or not, it's up to her. Lots of kids do something at school for their birthdays! Asfor the joint party if you aren't comfortable with her or the other invitees then you're right , don't do it! I just sometimes think we get way too carried away with the idea of letting the WAS live with their choice, in an almost vengeful way, but it's hard to walk that line where you cut them out but are also there to co-parent together. What's best for our children? Tough choices! We each have to find our own comfort zone I guess.
