H in MLC and living with OW. Exposed - now what?

[MarieC]

Thanks, Allen. It's been about 2 weeks now with absolutely NO contact. I have no intention of contacting him, but am surprised that he doesn't try to contact me anymore.

Maybe I miss the "I love you, I miss you, I want to be friends with you, I have to figure out where I went so wrong and why" emails and phone calls (and his telling friends he thinks we'll reconcile!) because they at least showed me he had SOME remorse and was still thinking about me. He told me he is afraid he's made the worst mistake of his life.

But now, even though **I** was the one who repeatedly asked him to leave me alone as long as he lived with that lowlife OW, I find I'm surprised he's finally honoring my request - and that he really IS leaving me alone. His word has meant nothing for so long - NOW he finally (after 5 months) does what I ask, so I'm shocked.

After he moved out and moved in with her, I asked him, over and over, to leave me alone, but now he actually IS staying away (perhaps because the incident with the police caused by his skank so totally made him look like an ass in our little town, where everyone knows each other!)

With him now not contacting me, and my having no intention of contacting him as long as she's in the picture, it seems hopeless. I am afraid you're right when you say,

"You may find when you end all contact he chooses to stay with "the skank"... so be it. You NOW can move on and enjoy the rest of your life."

I also can't seeing get someone to hit on the skank - it would be (as she is) too far below me.

Other than that, there's nothing left to do?

That's hard for me - I am such a hard worker, so determined, so loyal... It's bizarre to me that there is NOTHING I can do. But he holds all the cards, the man who promised me his love and fidelity and then betrayed me is the one who gets to call the shots. It's so hard...