How to tell if there is an A

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The straying partner seems to develop immediate amnesia regarding feelings for his or her spouse in the chemically induced rush or new infatuation.

This is about the TRUEST statement here on the boards. DEAD ON TARGET.

And... IT DOESN"T HAVE TO ALWAYS BE A PARTICULAR PERSON

Sure, there may be infatuations, emotional affairs, physical affairs ect.

HOWEVER, once a WAS starts down this path, even if you expose and blow the affairs out of the water, THERE CAN STILL BE THOSE "LOVE" chemical reactions that can be about SOMEONE IN GENERAL - i.e. a FANTASY/SOMEONE, or the ANYONE BUT YOU person.

The affairs create this amnesia about your marriage, so the WAS starts "dreaming" of the next "chapter of their life".

Which basically means they are longing for that excitement of being chased, or chasing someone. They want to start "dating" again, and have that new "in love" feeling.

THEY ARE SO UNHAPPY WITH THEMSELVES THAT THEY SEEK VALIDATION AND LOVE WHEREVER THEY POSSIBLY CAN. Even in their head, or with ANYONE that might be a potential fling or boy/girlfriend.

I am living this right now. My WAW is so miserable and unhappy that she is literally chasing almost EVERY avenue of interaction and/or affection that she possibly can.

In order to deal with this, you really have to have guts of titanium. Not steel, titanium surrounded by shields more powerful than the Starship Enterprise. Because your WAS will launch photon torpedoes at your soul, and if you are not prepared, you will go down in flames.