She seems to be pursuing affection with me, initiating hugs and kisses, maybe once a day saying ILY. However, she has never, ever been a physical type of person to show affection. That's just who my W is. She hasn't ever liked backrubs, petting, whatever. She is just not a physical person at all, but I am. Is
From what I read in your posts, the hugs and saying ILY is more of a habit/routine thing. Maybe I missed something about a kiss?
With you pulling back and not pursuing, that action will draw her in closer. But I am concerned about how "quickly" she is doing this. She could have taken the EA deeper under cover (like a pay-as-you-go phone)and she is playing the wifey role to throw you off her trail. Or...she may have decided to try and make the most out of a bad situation if she's going to stay in the M. Since she is not a physical person....that concerns me. You might be reading too much into the hugs, etc.
When an EA ends, some WAW's do not feel remorse for a long time. She regrets the hurt she caused others, but she has a lot of resentment that she's dealing with. It took me forever to reach that place.
BTW, why did you bring the lying up again? I thought that had been hashed out before.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
