I think she was mad that I used a credit card to buy some flowers and a Thank You card for D and S to give to the firefighters at the local firehouse for the tour they gave them. I really wants to be a firefigter, and he wants to thank them for the tour. She did not like that I went shopping with everyone tonight without asking. To her, it is her money, not mine. The recent attornies I spoke with said I can use the credit cards too. I am doing it now.
I am still waiting to hear back on the job. I hope this D will cause me to lose a job I want so bad. What should I do. I have not told the recruiter yet. I am worried I won't be considered. Any suggestions?
I have been sticking up to my STBXW. I do not want this D still, but the M the way it is would never work for me with her having an affair with OM.
I have not seen this angry in a long time. She was home a little earlier tonight. I wonder if her and the OM are having trouble?
I can't wait for tomorrow to be here already. I am still surprised about her coming home with quarters for me to do laundry. I did not care either way. I just would not do it anymore. She is acting odd today.
She also talked to her parents for 2 to 3 hours last night.
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She seemed so angry today, and she was looking for a confrontation with me. I did not give her one. I just left and walked away. I will not argue with her.
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Wife left at 7:26 am today. Even early for her. She did not say bye to me or anything. Unusual for her. It seems to be the only thing she does say to me these days. Last night she was home at about 7:00 pm. That is a little early too. There is some strange behavior with her these days. She seems more angry at me, and she usually is distant but quiet. I do not where the change is coming from her. She actually confronted me on money last night, and she does not comment on anything. I am just finding her a little different lately.
Strange!
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Change is good LSG. Any change. Keep doing what you are doing. Keeping out of confrontations is great! I have read on here a lot that if she wants to fight, you agree with her or validate and show empathy. You can't fight with someone who won't fight.
I've also read that anger from WAS can be good. And you not fearing it is good. Maybe she realizes that she is losing control to you. Nice job....
I stayed out all night on Tuesday and didn't tell W anything about it. We only had 2 sentences with each other last night, which is fine with me. I think my W is starting to understand that she is losing control too.
I think you are right. They know I love my W. The OM works at her work, so they know him too. I don't know how he acts around them. It will be interesting to see how he is after my divorce with her. He will change when he is served too.
If her workplace accepts OM as the boyfriend. They view you in a diminished light. What could reverse this rather quickly is if the guy started a physical altercation while you where being "cool". Of course you'd have to win that fight decisively. The dynamic would switch in a snap of fingers.
I seem to be so detached from W right now. I do not know what to think or feel about this. I think about her less and less, and at home I do not even have any feelings for her. I just care for the kids and that is it.
I feel a little something writing this but that is about it.
It is good to be stable emotionally which seemed I would never achieve. I am making progress I suppose.
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My father said "Is she thinking about you?". It was a good quetion because I know that the wife has not truly thought of me, what was important for me, or what would be thoughtful - in a VERY long time.
Its her entitlement that is stinky like a piece of poop. I hate it. I did it to someone in my past, so now I know how it looks. Pretty bad, not attractive at all.
Is she thinking about you?
When was the last time she truly thought of you, in a good way - like for a week straight?
You could be right about the control thing with W because I just do my thing, and she does not know what I am doing. Too bad for her.
Control is the one thing that WAW spouses seem to want to have. If they have no control, they have nothing on the LBS.
Good for you on not letting your W control you too.
Exactly. Every time I have a conflict with my WAW, it's because I'm exerting some effort and energy into moving forward. It's almost as if my wife is miserable, but expects me to make all the tough decisions. I've realized how passive she is.
