I was responding to the article you sent me where she says minimal contact that is conflict free is the most deadly. It gives among other things the appearance that you are fine with him being with someone else. So I'm looking at all the ways I can show I"m not waiting for him, while still keeping custody of my child.
I also get emotionally tied back in when i see him so it's for me. I need to get over him.
?Now to make him more uncomfortable - exposure is silly since we are separated anyhow. He feels the right to see whom he wants (even though I say we are still married and two wrongs - affairs - don't make a right).
How else can I make him uncomfortable? I can go back to court. I can fight for full custody - or majority custody. Ican get him drug tested, legally obligated to go to parenting classes and anger management classes. AT least I can fight for these things. I can ask him to get his stuff out of the house and to get his mail at his house - all things i have not wanted to let go of, out of fear of letting go of the R. If I am to give the message that I am not waiting for him to come back I need to do these things right?
That is not waiting it out IMO. How do you see me waiting it out? How can I make it further uncomfortable for him? Any more suggestions?
