It's like dealing with an alcoholic. No matter what anyone says, no matter what evidence is put in front of that person, the power of their denial either rationalizes it away or makes it as if what you are trying to show them is invisible.
It isn't until they 'get it' that the change begins to happen. I've seen it so many times in all kinds of situations.
often i don't think they 'get it' until it's too late. i don't know if they become addicts but i agree that they irrationally rationalize away reality. it's almost as if they are afraid to admit they are wrong or have a problem.
what got me so down today was that last night, i watched ABC PrimeTime Family Secrets. it was about the divorced couple who were forced to live together due to the economic downturn. they were unable to sell their million dollar home and so they lived in separate bedrooms under the same roof for 9 months. to make the long story short, the w asked for the d. the h was devastated. no infidelity. throughout the interviews, it seemed like her reasons for d were due to her mind reading of her h's intentions. in the end, she found a place and moved out. in her final interview, she said that after moving out she has a greater appreciation for her h and that only now she realizes how much he meant to her.
thinking about it, still makes me sad. because the WAW irrationally rationalized away reality and didn't appreciate her h until he was no longer around.
