When we first separated we did a family party for each of our families, as always, and we both went to both parties. (Our kids were too little for friend parties)
Now I have my party with my parents and sisters, he has his party with his parents and sisters. BUT, so far, on the actual birthday itself, we get together and have cake just the four of us, bc the kids want a "just our family" party. And it works for us. If I am dating in the future I don't know how that will go. I am fine keeping it just us so I guess if my bf at the time doesn't like it, that is not my priority. My kids are.
