Just found out she already filed

[ClingingToHope]

A friend of mine who got divorced said the first year after the D they did separate Christmas and stuff. After that, his ex asked if they could do them together because it's easier.

My friend did the divorcing so his ex- went from wanting to do stuff separate to doing them together.

I had made plans for D7's birthday, which is next week, and the weekend after it I'll be working out of town. D7 told me today she's having a party on the Sunday after her birthday. I told her I couldn't come and she was very, very upset ... and I feel like dirt.

The problem is in this case I'm not doing it to hurt STBXW. I genuinely have to work to make more money because of the D. But D7 gets caught in the crosshairs.

So if I get asked to come to anything on D7's actual birthday I will do it.