Right--no need to be nasty. You can be SAD when you say these things--they are sad truth darts, to be sure!

I have another ?? Do either of you plan on being involved with anyone in the future?

Because all this "happy divorce stuff" will probably fly right out the window when that happens.

W: Isn't it great we can get along so well!
You: Yes, and I hope the person I end up with loves the kids as much as you and I do.

THAT, above all else, makes my skin crawl--someone else involved with my S.