8, it's so weird that your H left you 2 days before mine did, and that they both got the ball rolling in the same week. I guess our Hs are on the same wavelenth :| .
What are the chances? That is nutty.
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I don't think you're crazy to want to reconcile...but I totally agree with CG that even if your H "changed his mind", it doesn't mean that he has what it takes to do the hard work required to reconcile. And it seems like, after separation, WAHs take 1-2 years before they even start to change their minds, when that happens.
Hard work is not H's thing. He quit this relationship just like he's quit his MANY other jobs. It's his way.
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I guess acceptance is the only way forward that I can see for myself. And I envy you that, if the D proceeds and you find acceptance, you'll be able to live a life totally free of your former H. A blank slate could be a good look for your life 8.
(((hugs)))
I suppose I need to start working toward total acceptance, too. It would be the best way forward.
Alice Walker, an author I really love, wrote a book several years ago called The Way Forward Is with a Broken Heart. I've never fully understood that title until I started thinking of how I would begin working on moving forward.
