You can't have everything, where would you put it?

[ClingingToHope]

Jeez, SR, we had exactly the same marriage.

Couple of quick things. Took the girls to a mini-putt go-kart place. D11 and D7 went there a couple of weeks ago with STBXW and MIL. D11 drove the go-kart on the big track for the first time by herself. She always had to ride with me. STBXW would never even get on the track.

Another first I missed ...

So we went so D11 could show me how she drives. She did very well although a couple of teenagers spun her out.

Then we went mini-putting and a couple of things happen. D7 told me her birthday party (she turns 8 on July 29) is at this place on Aug. 1.

Oh, I told her, I'll miss it. I'll be in Chicago working. STBXW never told me or invited me. D7 was sad because Dll will miss it too. Her week at horse back riding camp starts that day.

I can't change plans. I NEED the $350 I'll earn in two days. I'm taking D7 to Medieval Times on July 28 as our celebration.

Then D11 asked if we could do Laser Tag. I'd already spent $26 so I said no, I promised we would put it on our list and get it in before the end of summer.

She was very, very upset. She said I keep breaking promises. She brought up something about her theater troup I promised two years ago. I don't remember making the particular promise she remembers and I asked her if it was before STBXW and I split up. She said yes and I told her that I wasn't going to be able to do it because the theater troupe basically is STBXW's thing now.

Before, STBXW headed up the costume committee and I headed up marketing. It became a major sticking point. They kept handing me marketing even though I just wanted to help with publicity. STBXW kept taking costume and then spending us into oblivion.

I digress.

D11 told me I should stop making promises because I can't keep them. I asked about other promises and she couldn't remember any others. I didn't know what to say. She also chimed in about D7's birthday. She said STBXW hadn't told me about the party because "that's how she is. She only talks about the divorce and work."

I wanted to ask about that, but I let it go.

Eventually, everyone calmed down and we went to the health club to go swimming. That went well -- two hours in the pool -- and we came home so STBXW could pick them up at 6:30 p.m. True to form, she called at 6:40 p.m. and was just leaving work. She didn't get them until 7 p.m.

I get them back in the morning at 8 p.m. for THE big day of the week -- Great America.