What's up with you. I know you are reading the boards, but nothing new on your front? Perhaps you are still basking in the glory of how you handled the party. Well, you deserve it.
In case you haven't noticed, I tend to follow you around the boards a bit. Kind of like that little cartoon dog following the big one? You have a quiet wisdom that I lack. I'm more of a, shall we say, irrational at times?
Thanks for checking in. I'm just cruisin and livin my life.
Helping to get my DIL's colt ready for a horse show this weekend. He's out of my stallion so I have a stake in how well he does. IMO he's an exceptional baby. Only thing that I believe might hold him back is that he was born late April, so probably be smaller than most of them there. We'll see...
Punkin, we all have irrational thoughts and words. It's when we act upon those thoughts is where there could be trouble.
Part of the reason for these boards I believe is so we can vent and rage to each other for solace and advice, and not at our S.
I have never read about one irrational action from you. You 'got it' early on that this isn't about you, but about your H. You recognized he has problems and you went about protecting yourself as best as you oculd without vindictiveness or taking it personally.
You learned quickly that detaching was for you. You've handled your sitch with compassion, dignity and grace while looking out for your best interests because you knew no one else would or could.
Thank you so much! I don't always feel very dignified, I can tell you.
As for your DIL's horse, good luck! I have a friend who, & I know this doesn't compare, but who raises miniature horses. She always has baby pics of her new babies that are about the size of a puppy when they are born. She gets ribbons for hers. Size doesn't always matter.
I just try to remember that when he is doing his best to push my buttons, it's because he is worried on his end, and trying to get me to react. The thing he pulled with our daughter and the college benefits really sucked, but she just came by my office to tell me she qualified for almost a full Pell grant, and aide with babysitting and transportation! She will never do it, but now she can mentally tell her Dad to GFH.
Re-read you last night, you too are seeing your H poke his head out of the tunnel here and there. IMO this is a much harder time when we see glimpes of our S and then they go away again. Patience, you are doing great!!!
Happy Little Friday!!!!
Formerly "missherlove"
Me49 XW49 M17 T19 S16 D20
Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.
In case you haven't noticed, I tend to follow you around the boards a bit. Kind of like that little cartoon dog following the big one? You have a quiet wisdom that I lack. I'm more of a, shall we say, irrational at times?
Anyway, keep us up on what YOU are up to.
FTR SA has excellent advice. She always has. Read her very first post. It was some great advice that she gave Sydney2.
Punkin, not alway is something "happening" in MLC sichs. This can take a very long time and it is said that this is a marathon not a sprint. SA is doing fine. She can of course, answer for herself.
Punkin, Don't be afraid to venture out on your own. You must learn a lot to navigate this journey. You are gaining information and tools to use, try to put them to the best use.
MHL - Yss, H peeks out every once in a while. I've learned it doesn't mean a thing so I don't put have any expectations from those times, only curiosity. I have noticed that he withdraws for a while after peeking out.
LanceS, Thanks for the vote of confidence. Sometimes I question myself (nickel Cat) and second guess, but am learning that things will play out exactly as they're supposed to in their own time.
If there is nothing going on in your life, then there is definitely something you are not doing right. Even if it's accompanying your grands to see 'Toy Story 3'. The very fact of detaching means you are out there doing something for yourself. If not, you're not detaching, you're decomposing.
And yes, I want to hear the mundane things like "I went for a drink with my girlfriend", or "I had to kill a 4 1/2 foot timber rattlesnake in the yard with a rake and a rock" ( that's a story for another time)It's GAL & Living.
Punkin Well I know that SA has lots going on in her life. You can take it up with her about whether she posts it all or not. Some of us post for all sorts of different reasons. Some of us communicate in other ways besides this board.
You avoided my question about whether of not you were on the alt. (alt = FB)
Avoid, no. I ended my Facebook relationship when the OW used it to 'out' her relationship with my husband. Obviously, she didn't trust him to handle it himself. She also used it to send pics to our children, my in laws, even h's ex-wife.
