I think everyone comes here and initially feels that by detaching you will "fall out of love" with your spouse. I know I had the same issues. What I guess I can say is this...
What is true love to you? If it is true and prue love than IMO you do not have to worry about "falling out of love".
True unconditional love IMO is loving that person no matter what.
You are hurt right now, your ego is a little bruised, you feel that you have been cast aside. You need that validation and well...your probably a little bit lonely. All reason WHY you should not look to involve someone else. Just saying..
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"He's just not that into you."
Maybe he is not. Maybe he is and is just really confused and trying to figure his own shiz out. I don't know BUT it may make sense to just give you and he a little more time.
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Another thought making me feel more like moving away than standing, is that my M as I knew it is over. That because of the changes that I need to make for me, and the process that H will go through, we will come out different on the other side which would provide a different M if it gets to that point.
Yes your old M has to die. That does not mean that a new R cannot be formed. Really think about it for a sec... your right you will BOTH be different people. Different people who just may form a new R. Just may like who the other person has become. From what I have read...couples that do survive this come out A LOT stronger - so maybe...just maybe you and your H may fall into this category.
Look lala - I'm not gonna kid you. The thoughts/feelings that you are having are thoughts that many will not post here BUT THEY ARE NORMAL.
Take your time...learn about YOU...get to know YOU...and remember..if it is meant to be then it will be.
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
