So yes, I can spend more time with my friends and what not, but what about when it comes to wanting more than that? How long am I supposed to deny myself that more intense relationship and wait on H?
I am going to say the same thing to you as I would my D. First off, b/c of your age you have a biological drive (as do the rest of us, but it does change over time), and you need to think with you head, not just your body and urges. Yes, if memory serves (and it does, quite well), I know how tough this can be. Is it worth it? You have to judge that for yourself. It always has been for me.
Instead of thinking of it as denying yourself, you can take the time you need to be. Just be you. When you are good in your own skin, taking care of yourself and coming from a place of friendship and peace, then maybe you will be ready for something else.
My rule of thumb has always been to wait at least 1 month for every year I was with somebody before I started looking into anything else. It gives you time to adjust and learn somethings about yourself.
The thing you don't want to do is hurt someone else b/c you really aren't ready.
As far as how long you wait,remeber this is the man you couldn't see yourself living without. What's that worth to you in terms of time?
