tired of this

[A_goodman]

Ken,

Thanks bud. I will try to remember all that I have learned here. I know he will want to discuss this list, but that there won't be time for all of it. I plan on asking for clarification on the things that I don't fully understand. I also want to discuss the money issue since that came after the last session.

I guess really I just want to learn what needs she has that I didn't meet. I told her during our discussion last night that the list did not really address her NEEDS just seemend like an extensive record of justifications to describe her present state.

She mentioned that 10 years ago, she did things that at the time seemed logical to her, but that were the harbingers of our present state. After the EA three years ago, I was so happy to have her back that I just worked on a similar (much smaller) list of my shortcomings and didn't really want to dredge it up. Bad mistake. That was the perfect time to explore this and try and get to the bottom of it. Now here we are again. And she has been unhappy for half of our relationship. So, to me THAT is the crux of the issue. She says she doesn't know; which is exactly what she said three years ago. I can't drop it this time. All I really want is to know what happened and that is the key to it. So I hope MC can see that too and maybe help uncover what it is.

So as I see it, my assignment tonight is to ask my questions, voice these concerns and further explain what my boundaries are going forward. All the while, being empathetic and validating her feelings, while also remaining detached and letting her go. Then hope the MC has enough savvy to run with it. 50 minutes. No sweat.

Afterwards, My Cub Scouts are going to hold a kite flight at the lake. So I'll be running to that and having a little fun with my sons and the Pack. Tonight I am definately going to have a beer on the porch. Just one though, I have to stay sharp 24-7.

Game Face!