My W and I are physically separated; I got served D papers; we are fighting over custody. I have signs she has someone. So what. It has no impact on custody or a D in my state. It's her life, she can do what she wants. I don't care whether she has someone else or not at this point - it's irrelevant only because I have detached from her. Hope that makes some more sense.
i thought detachment was loving them from a distance/hands-off approach. knowing you cannot control them but it doesn't mean you stop loving them.
