... a car pulled up next to me with a license plate that said "xander". that is my sons name and I believe it was a sign for me to focus on my kids and be the father they need me to be.
THis will be a long road, whether it ends up with us together or not. All I can do is stay strong and do things for me and the kids.
Be a great father to your kids, part of that is being a great person for yourself, first and foremost, lead by example, set a great example, life a great life, even if that means without your wife.
Let her stew in her own juices, let her be angry, let her do whatever she needs to do, you can't control her, you can't reason with her, you said she previously had an affair, if how she is acting now is similar to that period of time, she could be in the middle of one now as well and if that's the case let her go.
Enjoy the day.
robx,
Most of these WAS's are the same. Like you said, you can't control them, you can't reason with them, and they probably won't tell you the truth even when confronted with physical evidence of their transgressions. I'm starting to think why should we even speak to them.
Another thing. Part of the formula for "cake" is that you love them, and you will not do anything because you are pining to be back with them. If you started up some stuff of your own, you could pretty much eliminate cake. Also a quick departure does the same thing, but neither of these is DB principles.
