How do I save my marriage to husband in MLC?

[ericmsant2]

RLay

From your post it still looks like you are trying to control the sitch. It appears that you are STILL VERY angry about OW. Know what? It’s normal. However, you need to continue your process of healing and moving forward. Moving forward for YOU not moving forward and looking back at your H. That time will come – just not now.

Now before I go one I want you to realize one thing that I noticed. You refer to your H 15 times in your post. You refer to “them” or OW about 7 times in your post. When you refer to YOU, you do so only about 4 times and in all cases, you refer to yourself as being hurt, angry, or downright broken. So my advice to you is to really begin to live life for YOU. Let him go Rlay…let him go…

Okay here are my thoughts on your post.

H's A with OW seems to be coming to an end (maybe). They are exchanging nasty messages to each other on their secret Ms pages. Well, actually, SHE is being mean and he is acting like a wooped pup- "I wish you luved me half as much as you do him". blah He supposedly went and got drunk last night.

How is it that you know so much about the R? Are you watching him? Listening in on calls? Still obsessing a bit?

I texted him today asking if he was okay since he never even bothered to call the boys this past weekend (after he promised he would take them to some kind of bike race).

Did you text him to really take a pulse to see where he is at? Even if the text was really just about the kids – why do you feel you need to do this? The R between him and his kids is just that between him and them. It is not your job to try and mend or help it along – IMO.

Now, I know that he was too busy fixated on his OW and trying to keep the A going, he probably didn't even give the promise he'd made to his kids a second thought.

How do you know this? Are you in his head? I mean you are probably right but really are you 100% sure that the OW is the reason that he did not keep his promise. All of this aside, it is another example of where you are still SO FOCUSED on HIM.

He didn't text me back, which is odd- he usually does. He deactivated his FB page (an addiction of his), but then reactivated it 5 hours later.

I wonder what happens next?

This is a great question – what you cannot see yet is that YOU determine what happens next. You can decide to let go and begin your healing process, knowing that it takes TIME and is a PAINFUL process. You can decide to remain focused on OW, feel angry, feel discouraged, feel defeated or as I would really say…feel like s*it.

Right now, you are at a crossroads RLay – you can either take the a step forward or remain where you are. Your call.
Personally, I would take the step forward. I would get the F up and say enough of HIM and HER. F Dat – I’m gonna live my life cause it is short. That is what I would do. Oh…but I got there when I finally stopped snooping. When I finally said..I love myself…when I finally said I am going to face this sh*t like a man.

So RLay – can you tell me what you are going to do?

Sorry if my post offended you – really I am.

God Bless,
Eric