I posted this on my thread alittle while go and thought it might ask some questions and provoke some thoughts here, too.
How do you 'set them" free and not be concerned about what they are doing to themselves and the family while continuing to put the effort into exposure; gathering intel and anything else that is directed at 'saving the marriage'? Seems very conflicted.
It is. That's why I've told you you need to pick one approach or the other. All of this "analysis" time would be better spent on GALing and doing legal research, CD. You can analyze the various approaches 'til the cows come home, but it's best to just pick one and DO it.
I also think that where there's infidelity involved, it's best to try Allen's approach first.
The beauty of going "Allen A" before you go "Gucci/Robx" is that you can still play the "Setting them free" card if the first doesn't turn them around.
