Baby born, separated, WH moving overseas for OW

[newmama]

I agree 100% with Gatsby. Last night at the custody class, we each had to share something positive about the other spouse. There were about 9 men and it was terrific to hear how they talked about their kids' mothers:

+attentive to needs
+excellent caregiver
+involved
+knows children's likes and dislikes
+organized
+loving and affectionate
+patient

Since people stop or don't tell us (as mothers) that we are doing a good job, it made me feel good to hear these compliments to other mothers!

My point? These men actually lit up with pride,I swear, when they were describing their ex wives' mothering skills! So being the best mom you can be is good for your daughter, good for you and good for your H's admiration for you.

Since your H only has eyes for OW, might as well try to look attractive for yourself, try to become more interesting for yourself, but not expect it to draw his attention!

And I think it wouldn't hurt to practice good communication skills...where were you weak before with your H? I am really trying to be better at not interrupting, paraphrasing/repeating back to make sure I understood right instead of "assuming," and allowing stbxh more time to respond. I do this with him still, with my friends, and with the men I am getting to know! BUt habits are tough to break!