R-LAY, you need to set some STRICT boundaries with this man. Visitation, child support, things of this nature. You need to work on yourself, focus your time and energy on you and your kids, not him. Sitting around wondering why and what you can do to get him back will get you nowhere, and it will stunt your growth as a person. Don't call him, email him, text him. No communication at all unless its an emergency. Remember, you need to respect yourself and not be a doormat to this man.