I don't know what others here will say, but discussing future finances and selling of assets probably isn't productive to your R and M. The next time she brings it up, and what worked for me, should go something like this:
W: I think we should talk about selling X. H: Hmm. Really? W: Yes, I think we should because of XYZ. H: I'll have to think about that. W: What's there to think about? It makes sense. H: Maybe so, but I'd like to think about it.
The longer you don't talk about these things, the more it becomes less of a priority. I made the mistakes of laying out all finances and custody arrangements, etc in the beginning, and I wish that I hadn't.
Also, do NOT move out of the house. That's your house too. You're not the one who wants to leave (same as the bedroom). If she doesn't want to be with you, make her leave. You're not the one creating conflict now.
