Glad that I can be of some assitance. Yeah the legal stuff really stinks. It does. This is going to be an interesting time for you IMO.
You are going down the legal path right now. You are still angry and a little hurt. So what are you going to do? How will you react to him and his Attny?
Try to keep yourself grounded. Think about who you really want to be. Think about how you would like this process to go. Then think LOVE.
What is it? Can you Love someone that is kicking you? Can you really forgive? Why should you forgive?
IMO - continuing to love him does not mean that you lay down and allow him to stomp on you. No. Loving him IMO is trying to understand what he is going thru. Trying to understand that right now he feels he needs to move in another direction. Right now...we'll he lost and doesn't even know it.
Whatever you and your attny do...my adivce would be to be "fair and just" - no more - no less. Just be fair. Do not expect that if I do "this or that", that he may come back it may show him something....No...just be true to who you are. Be true to your kids.
"With love..." always with love....
Finally, don't worry about the spinning and the pain - at somepoint it will go away or get easier to deal with. I also want you to think about YOUR future. What does it look like? Who is in it? Can you really forgive H after a D? You know I have been giving this a lot of thought lately. Getting D is not the END. It is a begining....a begining that could or could not include your H. Cool thing...it is YOUR choice.
IB - take some time to heal sweetie...take as much time as you need. Look up and know that whatever is happening is happening for a reason and maybe...just maybe...that reason is to show you true love, true forgivness, true HOPE.
Never loose HOPE...Hope that is in YOU and what YOU want.
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
