New here, not sure where to start

[irishblessings]

Bradley,

You seem to be in a much better place (I lurked through yours - and everyone's posts:))! Our MC talked to me the other day about detachment but remaining "courageously compassionate". If your W is hitting rock bottom then I would think that she needs help. I think that you are in a good position to identify what reconnecting looks like (ie, IC, MC, structured schedule, time together) - what are those things that for you are non-negotiable in terms of what must be in place?
(Not like I really know any of this s**t - but I've READ a lot!!:))

Enjoy the beach - there is NOTHING better than kids at your kids age down in the beach. We used to take our kids for 2 weeks to Folly Beach in SC. GREAT memories!